Are you a parent? Do you fail at things? Welcome to perfect parenting.
My son is almost 4 months old and he’s freaking cute and awesome; he’s such a gift. Generally, when you’re about to become a parent one refrain you’ll hear repeatedly from other parents is too expect to fail; don’t expect perfection.
I think that’s both true and false. To my mind, with my vast 3.5 months of experience as a parent to a single child, I believe failure is perfection. What would it even mean to be a “perfect parent” anyway?
We all know, I hope that our children will learn best from our actions more than our words. There’s a lot we need to model for our children and surely among the most important is to model the process of failure and recovery. Failure generally brings about a need for perseverance and the Apostle Peter wrote “5 For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, 6 and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, 7 and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. “.
Sanctification is not an event, as much as a process on our way to holiness. Part of that process involves times of failure and struggle met with perseverance and learning.
We don’t do our children any favours by trying not to fail. Certainly, we should avoid putting our child in the microwave or leaving them in the car overnight, but everything I think is up for grabs. The absolute worst thing you can do is compare yourself to other parents. Besides, someone, somewhere, is probably comparing themselves to you and think you’re doing a pretty awesome job.
So, embrace the mess, embrace the screw ups, embrace the perfection of your imperfection.